I know that I’ve said this a few times before, but it is worth repeating, even if the only one listening is me. I have sat down in the middle of a mess of my own making, angry with everyone except the one that made the mess (me), with people who have made the same mess and figured out how to let themselves and God fix the mess, surrounding me, ready to help me and crossed my arms and wondered how in the world I was going to get out of my mess.
This tendency probably has some scientific term but I will simply call it foolishness.
Even a lot of things that did work for me, I only did to prove that it wouldn’t work. I remember declaring Celebrate Recovery something that couldn’t work for me. My brain was too messed up and I was too far gone.
There was a day, sitting there listening to a friend speak, that I suddenly realized, “Look at all these people that this has worked for and some of them are as goofy as I am. I am NOT my own special kind of stupid!”
Proverbs 12:15 Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others.
Some problems are huge. They demand years of constant work to resolve. Other problems are merely caused by me insisting that I am right even though everything seems to constantly go wrong. I have found that when I insist on doing what is not in God’s plan for me, that I unnecessarily complicate life. Tough times get tougher and good times get harder to see.
There is a lot of peace in realizing that I may not be doing things right and having friends that have been where I am that will tell me wise things can help me regain my bearings and cut some problems out of my day. I have to be willing to let go of, “I’m right and everybody else is wrong.”
There is no shame in being wrong. There is a little shame in staying wrong when I don’t have to. God’s word calls it being a fool. I still don’t like being a fool. But God doesn’t refer to it as being wisdom-ically challenged or identifying with a lower species of life. He puts fool right out there where it belongs. If it hurts my feelings, then I should stop being foolish.
I shouldn’t turn my back on a wise person just because I don’t like what they say. I’m seldom going to like advice that requires me to do something I prefer not to do. But advice that really helps me change, is usually going to involve something I don’t like, maybe work or sacrifice or killing off some self-pride and ego. That stuff initially is not too appealing but the rewards are great and people willing to offend me a little to help me are the ones I need to draw close to.
God doesn’t put people in my life that make it easier for me to be a fool. (Who puts those people there?) No, he puts wise people there and far too often I ignore them just as I tend to ignore God and his word.
So today, I need to intentionally seek out wisdom from God’s word and his people. I need to admit that I am not the definitive source on being right in every situation and seek out truth. Life will still be kind of tough but it will be less hard to handle and that ugly “fool” word won’t apply to me quite so much.